I think this about A Listers all the time! It’s like ‘so people just acknowledge you’re amazing to your face and offer you jobs and money and stuff? And your agent just delivers all these things to you without you having to go out and hunt for them?’. I crave that kind of magnetism so much
This post reminded me of motherhood and how we’re always told to “enjoy” and “appreciate” the baby years when actually we’re just fucking exhausted and simultaneously not sleeping + feeling guilty we’re not appreciating this season more. Maybe there’s no overlap but I also wonder if it’s BOTH and internal mindset AND needing external circumstances to be easier + having access to more resources and opportunities. Chicken or egg? Hmmmm….
I see you because I have the same thoughts since some years ago! Life is so hard and imbalanced that money is required beyond our work. I'm so tired that I don't want to produce and get tired to defend my job. I just want to do my things when I want to but it's not attached to time/money/survival. And now, in summer in Spain, I feel it more; I'm exhausted with this heat that my neurodivergent mind and body can't function and produce. So yes, I wish that opportunities come easy or that I didn't money to survive.
No, truly, I long for the day when I can stop knocking on doors and they can come knocking on mine and I get to pick and choose whom to open for. But also… I guess some do come knocking now, and I’m very grateful for it.
All of this resonates and I especially love the footnotes. 😉
I think easy would be boring. Easy wouldn’t be stretching and growing and expanding. And effort isn’t the same as striving and chasing and pushing. It can be a patient devotion and a resolved commitment and discipline.
And . . .we all need a counterbalance of ease and restoration too.
Hey Amie, i bought the book and thank god I did. It's amazing. Also, I would love a hole post about "Each opportunity happened because I wrote some fucking weird emails that made me really uncomfortable and then I followed up a lot. I fight for my wins." I need examples and help from a big sister.
“I desire violently, and I wait” - holy shit that’s relatable. This whole essay/journal thread resonates incredibly deeply; it’s not like we wait without putting effort in, but impatience feels like the hardest obstacle to overcome, sometimes!! I often think about the narrative of “take a leap of faith and a net will appear”, and how that doesn’t account for those of us on the early steps of the RIGHT path that requires grinding through difficulty and roadblocks. It’s not meant to be easy, but sometimes nothing sounds better than a little bit of ease.
Sheesh this is soooo relatable and literally just shared something so similar to my partner today. When will there be some flow? When will momentum take over? Will it ever? This happens in the form of a monthly (sometimes more or sometimes less) tantrum so I know it well.
Ahh the life of an artist choosing each and every day to just put one foot in front of the other. I see you. Thanks for all the work you do to encourage us and yourself to keep going cuz we do indeed need your art ❤️🌹
Ahhh yes. Why is it so "easy" to apply for a corporate job while a creative life is something we have to fight for to have? Something I'm working through myself so thank you for this very thought provoking post 🤍
I do believe we can cultivate our own sense of ease—but I’ve also come to see how closely it’s tied to privilege. For some, ease means spaciousness, support, and time. For others, it’s knowing they can feed their child or cover the basics. I chose the path of art over a steady paycheck, and while that hasn’t brought much material ease, there’s comfort in having stayed true to what matters to me. Maybe for some of us, ease looks different—not soft or effortless, but the quiet steadiness of choosing the life we’re called to, even when it’s hard.
This is a thought provoking article! I think ease is something we create - it can't be given. Ease comes from the decision we make (or don't). If we look outside ourselves for ease, then it will never come because we giving other people the decision and power. And I think that power should be ours to control.
I just love, admire, and appreciate so much when you share in this way. It’s such a gift to witness someone navigating the beautiful messiness of the creative adventure. It reminds us all that we’re not alone in this. And perhaps we’re all a bit crazy, but we can be crazy together.
And I just purchased “Write Your F*cking Book” 🤩
I’m bringing it with me to the northernmost edge of Denmark where I will finish writing my f*cking book (set in that location.) 🙏🏻
I think this about A Listers all the time! It’s like ‘so people just acknowledge you’re amazing to your face and offer you jobs and money and stuff? And your agent just delivers all these things to you without you having to go out and hunt for them?’. I crave that kind of magnetism so much
This post reminded me of motherhood and how we’re always told to “enjoy” and “appreciate” the baby years when actually we’re just fucking exhausted and simultaneously not sleeping + feeling guilty we’re not appreciating this season more. Maybe there’s no overlap but I also wonder if it’s BOTH and internal mindset AND needing external circumstances to be easier + having access to more resources and opportunities. Chicken or egg? Hmmmm….
I see you because I have the same thoughts since some years ago! Life is so hard and imbalanced that money is required beyond our work. I'm so tired that I don't want to produce and get tired to defend my job. I just want to do my things when I want to but it's not attached to time/money/survival. And now, in summer in Spain, I feel it more; I'm exhausted with this heat that my neurodivergent mind and body can't function and produce. So yes, I wish that opportunities come easy or that I didn't money to survive.
No, truly, I long for the day when I can stop knocking on doors and they can come knocking on mine and I get to pick and choose whom to open for. But also… I guess some do come knocking now, and I’m very grateful for it.
❤️u Amie
All of this resonates and I especially love the footnotes. 😉
I think easy would be boring. Easy wouldn’t be stretching and growing and expanding. And effort isn’t the same as striving and chasing and pushing. It can be a patient devotion and a resolved commitment and discipline.
And . . .we all need a counterbalance of ease and restoration too.
Thank you. And feel better.
Hey Amie, i bought the book and thank god I did. It's amazing. Also, I would love a hole post about "Each opportunity happened because I wrote some fucking weird emails that made me really uncomfortable and then I followed up a lot. I fight for my wins." I need examples and help from a big sister.
Goodness this is so brilliantly written. It’s totally what my mind plays with at the moment.
You had me giggling outloud in a cafe at the dream letter bit.
I’d love it if you would read one of my posts and gave me some feedback because you are a major inspiration to me! http://lilys-newsletter-220608.beehiiv.com/
Thank you. It felt like you wrote every word just for me. The best kind of writing!! 🙏🏽🥰🤍
“I desire violently, and I wait” - holy shit that’s relatable. This whole essay/journal thread resonates incredibly deeply; it’s not like we wait without putting effort in, but impatience feels like the hardest obstacle to overcome, sometimes!! I often think about the narrative of “take a leap of faith and a net will appear”, and how that doesn’t account for those of us on the early steps of the RIGHT path that requires grinding through difficulty and roadblocks. It’s not meant to be easy, but sometimes nothing sounds better than a little bit of ease.
Sheesh this is soooo relatable and literally just shared something so similar to my partner today. When will there be some flow? When will momentum take over? Will it ever? This happens in the form of a monthly (sometimes more or sometimes less) tantrum so I know it well.
Ahh the life of an artist choosing each and every day to just put one foot in front of the other. I see you. Thanks for all the work you do to encourage us and yourself to keep going cuz we do indeed need your art ❤️🌹
Ahhh yes. Why is it so "easy" to apply for a corporate job while a creative life is something we have to fight for to have? Something I'm working through myself so thank you for this very thought provoking post 🤍
I do believe we can cultivate our own sense of ease—but I’ve also come to see how closely it’s tied to privilege. For some, ease means spaciousness, support, and time. For others, it’s knowing they can feed their child or cover the basics. I chose the path of art over a steady paycheck, and while that hasn’t brought much material ease, there’s comfort in having stayed true to what matters to me. Maybe for some of us, ease looks different—not soft or effortless, but the quiet steadiness of choosing the life we’re called to, even when it’s hard.
this is exactly what i needed to read today. thank you.
Same ✨
This is a thought provoking article! I think ease is something we create - it can't be given. Ease comes from the decision we make (or don't). If we look outside ourselves for ease, then it will never come because we giving other people the decision and power. And I think that power should be ours to control.
I just love, admire, and appreciate so much when you share in this way. It’s such a gift to witness someone navigating the beautiful messiness of the creative adventure. It reminds us all that we’re not alone in this. And perhaps we’re all a bit crazy, but we can be crazy together.